Tuesday, October 27, 2009

You Talkin To Me?

As if this week couldn't get any worse, my oldest son, Landon was sleepwalking last night. I awoke around 12:30 to an incessant barking from the neighbor's dog, so naturally, I go and check on my boys to see if they've been awoken as well... lo and behold- Landon was not in his bed!!! After about two minutes of running around in a panicked state looking for him (2 minutes that felt like 2 hours), I turned on the light in the playroom to find him asleep on the couch in there. Thank God he hadn't gotten hurt in this "bed-to-couch transition" in the dark. So I put him back to bed and went back to my room.... only to sit awake for about 2 hours, listening for every little sound I possibly could come from down the hallway. He got up about two more times walking around, and on the third when he finally needed to actually use the bathroom, I just pulled him in to bed with me so we could all get some sleep. So yes, super emotional and lonely me is running off three hours of sleep... not a good combo.

So maybe it was a combination of last night and this past week, but I'm not the woman to mess with right now. Well of all people to piss me off, my husband's ex decides to pick a fight with me through text message and I am going to post it here, verbatim, so everyone can see what a psycho we deal with on a day to day basis. I really don't care at this point if this is a good idea, but if I have this type of conversation documented, all the better for us in the long run.

Me: The plan today is for me to pick [J] up from gym and then u get her from me at 8, correct?

Her: Yeah and then you'll pick her up and drop her off on Thursday... And what time did you think you guys will be picking up [J] on Friday and when will you bring her home?

note* It was previously agreed to by my husband and his ex that I would have two dinner visits with [J] while he was in Montana and his ex would be picking her up from me after both visits. Apparently, her lazy ass forgot that. Moving on...

Me: No. My understanding is that u will pick her up both tonight and Thurs at 8. I will pick her up from school Fri and we will drop her off to you at 8.

Her: I told Mike I was willing to pick her up one night only... not both...

Me: The deal was both in exchange for [niece's] party. I'm doing enough by myself this week and would appreciate the help. I don't think that's too much to ask.

Her: I understand where you're coming from so I'll do it this time...

note* How on earth does she understand? Since when is she home running a household with three children alone for 10 days???

Her: Next time this happens all the normal travel arrangements remain in full effect. In regards to [niece's] bday I will be picking [J] up from you guys on Saturday the 14th at 7pm...

Me: Oh thanks for the favor I guess. And for [niece's] bday, I understand that you and [sister] are doing something at your church and you mom is picking her up from us at our church... Not the night before.

Her: If I'm driving to pick [J] up this week twice when I only agreed to once, then I get [J] on Saturday night the 14th at 7pm which was what you and I agreed to.

note* I agreed to nothing.

Me: You and I never agreed to anything, we discussed different options. But Mikey and you agreed to a church pick up and it had nothing to do with you driving here twice this week. Welcome to what we have to do on a weekly basis. I don't understand why it's so hard to just help out sometimes without so many strings attached...

Her: If u have a problem with the travel arrangements take it up with your husband... he's the one that agreed to it... Well I guess if we can't come to a resolution then we just leave things the way they are and not change anything... you don't get [J] this week and I don't get her for the party.

Me: It's not just the travel [B], it's the fact that anytime we ask for your help, there always has to be provisions. God forbid you should drive out here twice this week to help me out after being alone 10 days with the kids, but always have to have something in return. What resolution? I am going off what my husband said the two of you agreed to: you pick up Tues and Thurs from me, we pick up and drop off Fri, your mother picks [J] up from our church the 15th. If this needs to be changed, take it up with him and let me know. I do not make the agreements with you. I will be picking up [J] today and Thurs at 4:30pm as planned.

Her: I didn't agree to pick her up twice this week (note* YES SHE DID!) with Mike... so if I pick her up from you twice this week then I'll be picking [J] up from you guys on Saturday.

Me: All this over having to drive out here twice this week? You're unbelievable! Fine, just spoke with my husband, and even tho u agreed to two pickups, u can pick her up on the 14th at 8pm and no earlier since we will be having Landon's party that day. I want my [J] time.

All I want is time with my step-daughter, yet her mother will swear up and down that she makes this asinine decisions in the best interests of [J]. What part of that convo and not wanting to drive out here twice to help me out because she's so fricken lazy was in the best interest of her daughter?????????????????????????????????????????????????????????
All I know is, my husband is proud of me for standing up to her while he's in another state and that's all that matters.

My advice: Don't flippin mess with me right now. I have plenty of friends that will be "ghetto" with me and rip you a new one. Thanks! :)


  1. Damn! Like I mentioned before...I don't envy you regarding that. I'm happy to just deal with Rodney and not another person. Sheeshers. My love an prayers are with you sweetie.

  2. Hey Nette, My prayers are with you! I am also proud that you can stand up to her! I hope that you get more sleep tonight and that I hope that you get to spend all the time you can with her the next couple of visits :)

  3. Thanks you guys! Your prayers are definitely appreciated right now!